What Should I Consider When Vacationing With a Foster Child?

When planning a vacation or holiday travel as a foster parent, it’s important to consider the needs and circumstances of the children in your care, as well as the legal and practical responsibilities that come with foster care. Here are some key points to keep in mind:

1. Approval and Legal Considerations

• Permission from Caseworkers: You typically need to obtain permission from the child’s caseworker, as well as potentially from the biological parents (depending on the case), before taking a foster child out of the state or country. This ensures that travel plans align with the child’s legal situation and the foster care agency’s policies.

• Documentation: Ensure you have any necessary paperwork, such as court orders, medical consent forms, and identification, particularly if traveling internationally. You may also need to carry a copy of the foster care placement agreement.

2. Routine and Stability

• Maintaining Structure: Foster children often thrive on routine and predictability. While vacations can be exciting, they may also bring anxiety or emotional responses due to changes in the environment or the child’s past experiences. Try to maintain as much structure as possible, such as keeping familiar routines for meals and bedtimes.

• Comfort and Security: Bring along familiar items that provide comfort, such as a favorite blanket or toy. These small gestures can make a big difference in helping the child feel safe in unfamiliar surroundings.

3. Emotional and Behavioral Support

• Trauma Sensitivity: Be mindful that vacations might trigger past trauma or feelings of loss. If the child has experienced separation from their family, holidays or vacations may bring up mixed emotions.

• Communication: Keep an open line of communication with the child, checking in with how they are feeling and providing reassurance when necessary. Understanding their unique triggers or sensitivities can help prevent or manage emotional outbursts or anxiety.

4. Inclusive Planning

• Child’s Preferences: If possible, involve the child in planning. This can help them feel more included and excited about the trip. Foster children may also have special needs or preferences that should be considered when choosing destinations or activities.

• Age-Appropriate Activities: Plan activities that are suitable for the child's age, interests, and needs. Younger children may prefer more playful, shorter activities, while older children might enjoy more involved or educational experiences.

5. Access to Support Services

• Healthcare: Ensure you have access to medical care, especially if the child has specific health concerns. Know where the nearest hospital or clinic is, and keep contact information for the child’s healthcare provider handy.

• Therapeutic Support: If the child is in therapy or receiving other services, consider how the vacation may affect their progress. Some families arrange virtual check-ins with therapists or support workers during the trip.

6. Backup Care Plans

• Respite Care: Some children report feeling "left out" when the foster family vacations without them; however, there may be times when it is impossible to take the child with you. If for any reason you are unable to take the child with you, speak to the foster agency about respite care options. Respite care can provide temporary relief and ensure that the child is placed with another licensed caregiver during your absence.

7. Building Positive Memories

• Create Bonding Opportunities: Vacations can be a time to create positive memories and strengthen your relationship with the foster child. Simple activities, like building sandcastles on the beach or hiking together, can help build trust and attachment.

• Photo Albums: Consider documenting the vacation with photos or small mementos, which can give the child something tangible to remember the experience and may contribute to their sense of belonging.

  
  

Involving children in foster care in vacation plans requires careful preparation, but it can be a rewarding and memorable experience for both the child and the family.

Felita Cornog, Esq.